Mini-course I

Butterfly Exercise (scroll down for more exercises)

Welcome to your first steps towards achieving your love life goals.
Congratulations for deciding to change an important part of your life.
You can print this page or cut and paste it in to a word processing program.
Then, print it out to a size that can fit in to your diary.

His/her country of birth or nationality:.............................. N/A □

His/her present country of residence:................................ N/A □

Gender:............. N/A □

Preferred age range:................... N/A □

Height: 152cm (under 5 feet) □ 152-161cm □ 162-171cm □ 172-178cm □ 179-186cm (6ft) □ 187-194cm □ +194cm (over 6' 4") □ N/A □

Body type: Any □ Slim □ Average □ Athletic □ Regular □ Large □ Other □ N/A □

Appearance: Drop dead gorgeous □ Highly attractive □ Attractive□ Above average □ Average □ Below average □ N/A □

Hair type: Straight □ Curly □ Wild □ Other □

Hair colour: Blonde/blond □ Brown □ Black □ Red □ Bottled □ Grey □ White □ Balding □ Shaved □ Other □ N/A □

Eye type: Large □ Small □ Almond □ Other □ N/A □

Eye colour: Black □ Green □ Hazel □ Grey □ Brown □ Other □ N/A □

Ethnicity: ......................... N/A □

Religion: ...........................N/A □

Education: High school □ College/university □ Technical/further education □ Postgraduate □ N/A □

Preferred occupation: ...........................N/A □

Preferred income range: ...........................N/A □

Current status: Single □ Married □ Separated □ Divorced □ Widowed □ Other □ N/A □

Children: Yes □ No □ N/A □

What is the one thing in a relationship you must have? : ...........................

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Frog Exercise

A man and his son were involved in a tragic incident. The young man had an untreated
mental illness and he shot his father then tried to commit suicide. In a bedside murder
hearing, the government appointed solicitor was rushed to the hospital with a police
motorcycle escort.
They were slowed by a crowd of football fans exiting a football ground. The solicitor
entered the hospital room and said: “ I cannot represent this man, he is my son”.
How could this be the case?

Answer

Lizard Exercise

The aim of this exercise is to highlight your preferences for the way that you best understand
information. It will reveal your preferred learning style, or learning modalities.
The result will also guide you in the completion of this course.
You can print this page out or cut and paste it in to a word processing program and print it out.
Simply read the statement and place a cross or tick in the box that most closely applies to it.

		Often	At Times	Rarely
1	I’m distracted when music plays when I work.
2	Words in text can be confusing or misread.
3	Plenty of study breaks are important.
4	Writing step-by-step instructions is difficult.
5	At a talk I can lose track of what’s being said.
6	Following written directions can be confusing.
7	My papers can appear messy or disorganized.
8	I don’t read directions before starting a task.
9	Typing up handwritten notes helps me learn.
10	I “illustrate” pages with doodles and colours.
11	If I get directions, I write them down.
12	Reading body language is not a strong skill.
13	I learn best when listening than reading.
14	Trial and error is effective to solve problems.
15	Sitting at a desk for a long time is tiring.
16	Writing down information helps me recall it.
17	I don’t get jokes or sometimes I get it later.
18	Writing is not my strongest skill.
19	I remember things well when I hear them.
20	I like to work in a quiet, peaceful setting.
21	Though my vision is fine, I tire when reading.
22	I learn easily if I see someone do a task first.
23	Looking at folk helps me to know what’s said
24	I “talk” with my hands when describing stuff.

Strongly agree (5) Agree (3) Seldom or never agree (1)

Visual	Auditory	Kinesthetic
1	2	3
5	6	4
10	7	8
11	12	9
16	13	14
17	18	15
20	19	22
23	21	24
Total	Total	Total

Transfer the scores to each question above in the space next to it.
Total your score for each column.
The column that has the highest score reveals your major learning modality.
If you have two similar scores it shows that you have strengths in both areas.
If one score is close to your largest score, then it is enhanced by that modality.
If you have three very similar scores, then you have an equality of strengths across modalities.
Please remember that these are strengths. No single type or modality is superior to another.

Ant Exercise

Phone a friend and just chat to them.
Ask neutral questions like “tell me about your home town”.
Instead of thinking about what you are going to say next,
listen for the way that person uses the representational systems -
visual (sight), auditory (sound) and kinaesthetic (feelings).
They will have a preferred representational system.
Listen for and write down the key words that they say, using the examples below.
Try to listen to the words they use to say things, rather than what they are saying.

Visual	Auditory	Kinaesthetic
Perspective	Tell	Feel
Looks	Talk	Hurt
See	Sounds like	Feel
Observe	Listen	Close
Pattern	Ring	Cold
Clearer	Hear	Comfortable

More Questions You Can Ask

"I'm thinking of buying an MP3 player. What would you recommend?"

"Tell me about that holiday you had last year."

"Everyone's talking about that new TV show. What do you think of it?"

Snail Exercise

You'll need to phone a friend for this one, preferably a close friend who will help you with it.
Ask your friend to have a simulated telephone conversation with you.
Pretend that one person (the salesperson) is trying to sell something to the other.
Ask your friend to play the role of the person who has made the call (the customer).
Pretend s/he wants to buy the item, but has innumerable questions and queries about it.
You pretend to be the salesperson, matching the customer's voice tone, volume and tempo exactly.
The customer changes voice tone, volume and tempo with each new question that is asked asked.
Allow time for questions to be answered. After five minutes, change roles with your friend.
At the end of the exercises write down a few paragraphs on how you felt during the exercises.

Copy and paste the information below into an email.

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Change all the answers so that they apply to your “perfect” partner.
Then send this to at least three of your friends INCLUDING the person
who sent it to you, otherwise it will not be all fair, will it?
It should take about ten minutes.
The theory is that you hold a special place in the time that your friends
have at their disposal, so that they will be interested enough to enlighten
you to little known facts about the “perfect partner” they are seeking.

1. What time is it now?

2. His/her country of birth or nationality?

3. His/her present country of residence?

4. Gender?

5. Number of candles that appeared on his/her last birthday cake?

6. Month that s/he regularly blows them out?

7. Pets?

8. Favorite animal?

9. Tattoo?

10. What sort of a job does s/he have?

11. Height range?

12. Favorite vacation spot?

13. Body type?

14. Appearance?

15. Hair type & colour?

16. Anchovies?

17. 2-door or 4-door car?

18. Colour of eyes?

19. Salad dressing?

20. Colour of socks?

21. Religion?

22. Favorite Movie?

23. Favorite Colour?

24. Favorite Holiday?

25. Favorite Food?

26. Favorite day of the week?

27. Education level?

28. Morning person?

29. Toothpaste?

30. Preferred income range?

31. Cologne, perfume or oils?

33. Favourite thing?

34. Fast food place?

35. What is the one thing s/he must have in a relationship?

36. Favourite drink?

37. Children?

38. Where does your partner see her/himself in 10 years?

40. Furthermost place you will send this message?

41. Who will respond the fastest?

42. Least likely to respond?

43. What time is it now?

Now send this to at least three close friends, INCLUDING the person who sent it to you.

The theory is that you will learn a lot of little known facts about your friend’s
“perfect partner” and, by keeping your eyes open, maybe help them turn a dream partner
into reality.

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Copy and paste the information below into an email.

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Are you really in love? Try this quick quiz to find out. These are universal feelings that are experienced by every person anywhere on Earth who begins to fall in love. Just answer how often or how strongly you agree with each statement.
Score your responses from 1 to 3, where "Rarely" = 1, "At Times" = 2, and "Often" = 3.

1. He is matchless, unique and significant to me.

2. I think about him more than anything else.

3. I love everything about him, even his faults.

4. I cannot get him out of my head.

5. I get so excited I cannot eat or sleep properly.

6. I feel a great level of energy thinking of him.

7. I can easily switch from joy to despair.

8. If he is not near me a part of me is missing.

9. I constantly look for clues that he loves me.

10. Anything that he likes, I now also like.

11. Every part of me belongs to him.

12. If he is happy so am I, and if he is sad I may cry.

13. I always hope that he loves me.

14. I long for us to make love to each other.

15. I would be furious if he was unfaithful to me.

16. I crave to know that he loves me.

17. I feel I have no choice but to love him.

18. I can quickly switch from tenderness to lust.

TOTAL =

Scoring

Often (3), At times (2), Rarely (1)

Answers

18 - 24 Interested

25 - 36 Falling in love

37 - 46 In love

47 - 49 Madly in love

50 - 54 Soulmate

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